I’m Ifie Natasha Brandon — an author, poet, & creativangelist somewhere between Lauryn Hill, Nola Darling, & Jesus Christ.
We wake up. We feed children. We clean house. We let go of our inhibitions from the night before or the entire week we spent tired but pushing past our will to accommodate the needs of others and ourselves. And our households. We are superheroes; that’s not in question. But, we are not invincible. We … Continue reading What Women Really Mean When We Say We Need A Break
"Marriage isn’t hard work, we make it hard” Todd Taylor said this phrase during the Atlanta Clips & Conversations event for Black Love, the docuseries created by Codie and Tommy Oliver that captures love stories of black married couples. Season 2 of the docuseries airs on May 12th and Atlanta was the last stop … Continue reading Black
This blog was birthed from a very real place. A place of hurt, disappointment, feelings of inadequacy and eventually a place of anger. For the past 9 months, my marriage has been on one of the worst roller coasters ever. A roller coaster similar to the Goliath at Six Flags Over Georgia. As soon as … Continue reading Perfection is a Myth My Dear.
Love. Hatred. Resentment. Sadness. Arguments, Misunderstanding. Loneliness. Beauty. Laughter. Possessiveness. Growth. Death. Life. Marriage. is all of the above. It translates the deepest emotions into the most aggressive actions at the drop of a dime. It is the effervescent mirror that reflects our behaviors and tendencies. The mirror that we naturally avoid as we settle … Continue reading Love Isn’t Enough.
I'm sick and tired of people telling me that I have a good man. Every time he smiles at me or serves me. Every time he opens my door or calls me sweetie the world around me erupts in cheer and accolades as if I've just won the golden ticket to the chocolate factory. People … Continue reading You Chose Your Man.
I remember sitting on my bed with tears flowing down my face. Trying hard to catch my breath in the midst of a full out, ugly, loud cry. I was stressed, distraught and tired. This was week 2 of being a mom and I felt like I was a complete failure. My mom and mother in … Continue reading It Gets Easier
Over the past few years, I've noticed a distinct pattern among women in relationships. I've had friends that are in relationships, waiting anxiously for their men to propose to them. Some of them waiting 2 years, others waiting 5; and I could relate because I felt the same while waiting to be proposed to by … Continue reading Impatiently Waiting
Yesterday made 26 weeks/6 months that I've been pregnant with my baby girl. As I approached Friday, I began to realize that there are so many aspects of pregnancy that NO ONE told me about. I don't blame others for not informing me, because I believe it's a journey that is so individual to each person … Continue reading What They Didn’t Tell Me About Pregnancy
About four years before I got married, (which was about a year before I got into a committed relationship) I made the decision that I was going to wait until I got married before having sex with another man. I had a very promiscuous sexual past and I wasn't proud of it. Nor was I … Continue reading The Beauty In Waiting
So, on July 31, 2013, two months and 14 days after I married the most amazing man i've ever met, I am ready to share my newlywed thoughts, experiences, and realizations! (DUN DUN DUN!!) Hehe, just kidding. As i reflected on this topic, I thought to categorize our experiences into three different sections: The good, … Continue reading Newlywed: The Good, The Better, & The Best
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