A Dying Superhero
There is this ability we have. The ability to die over and over while trying desperately to look alive. Putting on makeup and cute clothes to feel beautiful. Convincing ourselves that we have to keep going or life will drown…
Purple Hair and Polygamy
Truth or Dare? The question that introduced entertainment to spice up a boring, rainy day among friends. A game to play when there was nothing of substance to occupy ourselves. The perfect instigator for sexual activity and secret spilling between…
I’m Worth The Wahala
Wahala [Wah-ha-lah] 1. Problem Ex: No wahala, I go move. (No problem, I’ll move) 2. Trouble Ex: Wahala dey come. (Trouble is coming.) For many,many years, I've deemed myself unworthy of the trouble and conflict that comes with difficult conversations…
Nothing More Than A Housewife
"I'm nothing more than a housewife. Cleaning and raising children will be what my life consists of for the next 20 years. I'll commit…
You Chose Your Man.
I'm sick and tired of people telling me that I have a good man. Every time he smiles at me or serves me. Every time he opens my door or calls me sweetie the world around me erupts in cheer…
It Gets Easier
I remember sitting on my bed with tears flowing down my face. Trying hard to catch my breath in the midst of a full out, ugly, loud cry. I was stressed, distraught and tired. This was week 2 of being a…
Wisdom & Dreams at 43
While visiting a piercing shop last week, I sat next to a beautiful chocolate woman with short natural hair. The tips of her hair had been dyed honey blonde and she was wearing an orange Home depot shirt with blue jeans…
Impatiently Waiting
Over the past few years, I've noticed a distinct pattern among women in relationships. I've had friends that are in relationships, waiting anxiously for their men to propose to them. Some of them waiting 2 years, others waiting 5; and…
Expectations: Unspoken, Unrealistic, Unmet
If we could be honest, we go into relationships with an expectation . If our expectations are not met, there is a strong chance that they become the reason for riffs and challenges in a relationship. Since being in a…
Surrendering to Submission
Surrender and submission. What a ridiculously daunting title. Two words that most women would rather extract from existence all together. Two words that our culture cannot stand. Neither surrender nor submission present a self pleasing reality, however I've realized that they…